The Importance of Friend Maintenance

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he Importance of Friend Maintenance

Alex Gutierrez I played at a great party last night, if you're a DJ you know that feeling you walk away with from an extremely satisfying event. It's a " High" the lasts for days. So many great people there ....and we were all on the same page .

Over the years, being a DJ has introduced me to a multitude of individuals, many of whom have become some of the closest friends I’ve ever had. As time goes on, I’ve realized just how crucial these friendships are to my overall psychological well-being. While we all lead busy lives and often get swept up in the rhythm of daily routines, maintaining and nurturing our friendships is something we should all prioritize.

As we grow older, the role of friends becomes even more significant. When we’re young, friendships can often feel more spontaneous and free-flowing. However, as we age, it becomes increasingly clear that our friends contribute to our mental, emotional, and even physical health in profound ways. For example, I’ve found that many of my friends have introduced me to experiences and hobbies I would have never explored on my own. A few of them got me into motorcycle riding—something I would never have dreamed of trying, but that turned out to be one of the most exhilarating and fulfilling activities in my life. These experiences are the ones that enrich our lives in ways that solo ventures simply can't.

Dinner parties and get-togethers, once seen as casual occasions, now carry a newfound significance. They’ve become more than just social events; they are opportunities to connect, reflect, and celebrate the bonds we’ve created. There’s something deeply rewarding about gathering with friends and sharing moments that transcend ordinary life.

As a DJ, I’ve always considered it a privilege to use my music to connect with people, taking them back to beautiful moments in time. Music has a unique ability to evoke emotions, create memories, and bring people together. In the same way, maintaining friendships acts as a form of emotional music that binds us to others, creating a soundtrack for our lives that provides comfort, joy, and meaning.

But how do we keep these friendships alive and strong, especially in the hustle and bustle of life? The answer, simply put, is "friend maintenance." This might sound a bit clinical, but the reality is that friendships, like any other relationship, require care and attention to thrive. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that just because someone is your friend, they’ll always be there. But real friendships need regular nurturing, whether it’s through a quick phone call, a text, or an impromptu visit.

In today’s digital age, social media has certainly made it easier to stay in touch with friends. A like here, a comment there, or sharing a post can help maintain some level of connection. However, nothing can replace the value of personal interaction. Taking the time to call someone or meet up in person reminds them that they’re more than just an online connection—they are a significant part of your life, and you truly value the bond you share.

As we get older, it becomes increasingly important to remind ourselves and our friends how much they mean to us. Friendships are not just about the good times, but about supporting each other through life’s ups and downs. They offer comfort during challenging moments and bring joy in the simplest of times. When you make a conscious effort to maintain these connections, it reinforces that you don’t take those friendships for granted.

So, to my friends—and to the ones I haven’t yet met—I want to take a moment to remind you how much you matter. Friendships are a gift that should never be overlooked or neglected. I encourage you all to take the time to reach out to those who mean something to you. Whether through a phone call, a text, or simply making plans to meet up in person, you’ll find that the effort is worth it.

After all, life’s greatest moments are often those spent with the people who know you best. Consider this your reminder. You matter. Your friends matter. And maintaining those connections will continue to enrich all our lives for years to come.